Learning on the Way
Sermon Summary
In Joshua 22, a misunderstanding nearly leads the tribes of Israel into civil war. The eastern tribes (Reuben, Gad, and the half-tribe of Manasseh) built a large altar near the Jordan River. The western tribes assumed it was for false worship and prepared for war. However, when they investigated, they discovered the altar was a witness of unity, not rebellion.
The passage teaches us that assumptions can destroy relationships when we interpret others’ actions without seeking understanding. Instead, God calls us to investigate before accusing, to pursue truth, and to assume love before malice.
Key Points
Observations Don’t Equal Interpretations
- The Israelites heard about the altar but didn’t see or ask.
- Misunderstandings often begin when we draw conclusions before getting facts.
- Application: In relationships, especially marriage, slow down before assuming motives.
Investigation Prevents Destruction
- Instead of attacking, Israel sent Phinehas to ask questions (v. 13).
- Proverbs 18:13 warns against answering before listening — it leads to folly and shame.
- Application: Healthy communication requires curiosity, humility, and honest dialogue.
Understanding Creates Monuments
- The altar became a witness of unity, not division (v. 34).
- What began as potential war ended in worship when truth was revealed.
- Application: Seeking understanding turns conflicts into opportunities for grace and growth.
Key Verses (ESV)
Joshua 22:11–12, Proverbs 18:13, Joshua 22:30–31, Joshua 22:34
Small Group Discussion Questions
Why do you think assumptions are so easy to make in close relationships?
What are some “altars” (behaviors or actions) that we often misinterpret in others?
How does Proverbs 18:13 challenge the way we respond when we feel wronged or misunderstood?
What practical steps can you take to “investigate before accusing” in your marriage, friendships, or church relationships?
How did Israel’s decision to send Phinehas instead of soldiers change the outcome?
What are some modern “monuments of understanding” you could build to preserve unity in your relationships?
How does this passage reflect God’s patience with our own misunderstandings of Him?
Weekly Application: On the Way
This week, commit to one situation where you will pause before assuming. When conflict or misunderstanding arises, pray:
“Lord, help me seek understanding before judgment. Teach me to listen before I speak.”
Practice framing conversations with:
- “I noticed…” (observation)
- “I interpreted that as…” (own your assumption)
- “Help me understand…” (invite explanation)
Ask God to turn potential conflicts into opportunities for grace and unity.
Want to Go Deeper: Personal Study
Related Passages
- Proverbs 18:2, 13, 17 – On listening and understanding before judging.
- James 1:19–20 – “Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.”
- Matthew 7:1–5 – Jesus’ warning against judgmental assumptions.
- Ephesians 4:1–3 – Maintaining unity in the bond of peace.
- 1 Corinthians 13:7 – “Love believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
Reflection Questions
In what area of your life do you tend to assume the worst instead of seeking understanding?
How can remembering the gospel—God’s patience with you—reshape the way you respond to misunderstandings?